“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Steve Jobs 1955-2011
Commencement address at Stanford University on June 12, 2005


I am not big on watching reality shows, but I caught the tail end of an X-factor audition the other day on television and had to go looking for it on Youtube. So far, I have watched about 50 other auditions.

The one that started it all was Stacy Francis’s audition. Watch her here.

Beyond the fact that she sings well, I was really moved by her story.  Like tissues–tears-and-a-dripping-nose moved. To summarize, she is a 42 year old woman who had been told by a former boyfriend that she was not good enough, that she was too old to pursue singing – something she knew in her heart she was good at.  

To quote her:  “I started believing him….and I just lost faith in myself.”

She said this at the beginning of the audition but looking at her (she is quite attractive), and listening to her sing (L.A Reid said her singing stirred his spirit and raised the hairs on his arm), you might be excused for wondering why she would fall for such a scam.

Her story is not a unique one – but it is certainly one that we can learn from. When you hear words like: “Believe in yourself”. “You are enough”. “Yes, you can!” don’t look over your shoulder and think that someone else is being addressed. It applies to you too. There might be someone in your life – a colleague, a friend, a sibling, parent, relative, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend who tells you you are not enough. It is up to you to remove that negativity from your life. If you can’t remove it, turn down the volume really low so you can’t hear it.

On the flip side, if you are the sort of person that needs to bring people down to feel good about yourself, you need help. And I say this with love. Life is too short to go around making people miserable when you can spend that same time spreading light and love. If you are spreading anything other than this then you must live with the fact that you life is soaked in the negativity you are giving out in generous supply.

I am a big believer that ordinary people can achieve great things. So if you find that you need a push, I hope this post does it for you. Turn off the negativity and leap forward into your life.

On a totally unrelated topic (but important all the same), that L.A Reid is soooooo fine *swoon*. I think I just finally understood the term eye candy. And I like the fact that he is kind to the contestants too. Any criticism is fully justified and doesn’t appear to be laced with malice.



Very well said NN!! And i like the fact that you spoke to those who make it their duty or hobby to bring other people down.

Stacey Frances is amazing .. I love her and i have she goes far in the competition!!!

L A RIED is fine ooo.. but i think he likes girls too much.. lol.. lol.. they were he looks at some of the contestant:D lol Anyways He is fine and he achievements are impressive..

Firstime on your blog.. I shall return 😀


I’m already back.. I just gave you an award- Mosr versatile Blogger award.. 🙂

Are you still watching xfactor?? I wish i was one of the girls Simon is coach France sounds like a good idea:d

Natural Nigerian

I have hopped over to your site. Thanks again for the award.

No, I think I am done with watching the X-factor for now – I may catch up on the competition on Youtube. I need to go pursue my dreams just as they are pursuing theirs and I can’t do that if I am watching them, lol!


I believe nobody has the right to tell you you are not good enough but yourself when you believe you can fly you will fly…chizys-spyware.blogspot.com


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