A few years ago, a girl with fluffy hair passed me by in ShopRite. I approached her and for the first time outside a meet up, told someone I did not know that I had a blog called Natural Nigerian and that I would like to take her picture to share on my Facebook Page. She obliged.
I still have the photo but for some reason never put it up. Anyway, imagine my pleasant surprise when I ran into her again and she even became a customer and started meet ups (all by herself!).
Anyhoo, long story short, she got married recently and I determined that I was definitely going to do a post on her and her fantastic hair. Enjoy! Warning - there are lots of pictures in this post.
Hey! Introduce yourself please!
Hello! I'm Osemhen. Engineer, writer, aspiring activist, occasional baker...
You sported a fantastic natural hairstyle. Why did you decide not to hide your natural hair for the special day? What made you so confident?
I won't lie, part of it was to make a point. There were people who'd announced confidently that they were certain I wouldn't wear natural hair for my wedding. Lol.
The thing is that I'm actually pretty lazy about my hair. If I wore a weave, it would've taken 1-2 hours to fix and then another 30 minutes to style on the day. And then what if my scalp itched in the middle of the ceremony? Or what if I felt hot? I didn't want to take any chances.
Finally, I wanted a vintage, timeless look. I think weaves date you. If you look at wedding pictures from 1997, you find those awful shiny weaves. I didn't want to cringe when I look at my pictures 20 years from now.
And then I look at wedding pictures from the 60s, and the women look so classy with their poufs and what not. I wanted that.
It's hard to go wrong when your hair is real. Look at Marilyn Monroe shots. Look at Diana Ross.
My confidence came from being comfortable. Comfort over everything.
How did you decide on a stylist?
Basically, I picked the nearest natural hair salon to my house (Tunmise Natural Hair Salon)
Bunmi of Tunmise, styling a member of the wedding party.
Did you work with her to come up with a style? Was there a mock trial before the big day?
I'd played around with my hair and I knew the styles that flattered my face. So I designed a style (flat twist in front pinned back, and a Cinna-bun behind). I'd practised it by myself many times. I wore it for my engagement shoot and confirmed that it was a look I was comfortable with. Then I had Tunmise practice it too about two weeks before my wedding.
What would you advice other Natural Nigerians to do if they wanted to rock their natural hair for the big day?
Pick a style early and practice. Prepare your hair as much as possible the days before. Wash, condition, moisturize, stretch if necessary.
You know our hair takes time, don't start washing your hair that morning unless your stylist really has a super game plan. Pick fantastic hair accessories
Okay, let’s digress a bit and talk about your rather unique wedding. I loved the fact that the white wedding was small and rather quirky. How did you pull it off and what exactly did you do (for those of us that weren’t there)
Lol. In a nutshell, my husband and I threw the kind of party we like to attend. We had less than 200 guests (a miracle in Nigeria). We wanted to have fun.
We looked at the traditional wedding agenda and asked ourselves, "Will this be fun for us? No? Out!"
So for instance, we sat at a banquet table with 14 of our friends. And this table was just one in the sea of tables. It wasn't in a special corner. It was right in the middle of all the other tables.
After the Daddy-Daughter dance
We told the DJ and live band to play soft music when people weren't dancing so people could actually talk to each other.
We spy you, Ozoz!
We stood up often and went to the other tables to gist with our friends. It was more like a dinner party than a wedding, really. (and that was what we told people, "Please join us for dinner to celebrate our exchange of vows")
We chose unconventional souvenirs; artwork, books and candy. It's always a pleasure to visit my friends and see the artwork from our wedding on their shelves.
The venue itself was a small miracle. It was a waterfront garden with a view of the Lekki-Ikoyi bridge and it perfectly fit our theme.
Our decorator (Timeless Creations Nigeria) was also wonderful. She understood we wanted elegant and understated, and she executed it beautifully.
Event Decorator - Timeless Creations Nigeria
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