A few weeks ago, I visited a blog and read a post there. One of the comments left by a commentator (let’s call her Ngozi) made me feel distinctly uncomfortable because it directly attacked a person’s character. I ignored it because it was not directed at me. I had a feeling that this person was vying for a fight. Visiting that same blog some days later, I saw that someone took her up on what she had said. Ngozi’s response to that comment was far from civil.
Imagine my surprise when I got a mail asking me to moderate a comment and it turned out to be Ngozi – on MY blog. The comment that she left on my blog was a thinly veiled accusation. I ignored it. Over the next few hours, she left 2 more. I ignored them all and did not approve them.
I have only twice done this before – a really rude comment and another one left by someone who was blatantly advertising their product. I did not approve the latter because I do not endorse anything unless I know that it is something I can use.
Anyway, I am sharing this story because negativity is something that I cannot abide. I do not let it into my space and my blog falls under that category.
I know that the anonymity that the web offers emboldens people in a way that real life doesn’t and I also knew that one day, I would have to deal with this kind of thing. It doesn’t make it any less distasteful.
When I am on anyone’s blog, I treat them/it with respect. It is like being invited into their home. Even when I don’t agree with what they are saying, I do so respectfully. When I think the written word will not convey my tone properly, I do not bother leaving a comment.
To all who have treated me and my blog with respect – A big Thank you! To those who haven’t, I hope you see this post and rethink your stand. If not, please follow the advice in the picture.