I came upon this picture on Facebook recently and re-posted it on the Natural Nigerians Facebook group with the question: Does your husband know how to fix his daughter’s hair? Is he involved in any way? I hardly got an answer because the ladies were busy oohing and ahhing about it being Kunle Afolayan in the picture. Lol! I am inclined to try to have this conversation again so here we go: In Nigeria, men are traditionally not very much involved in the domestic care of their children. I say traditionally because there are some exceptions (like my amah-zing Daddy :)).However have you ever noticed that the kiddies are more excited about Daddy fixing breakfast than Mummy doing it? I guess because it is a bit of a novelty. Seeing the picture above and the strong reaction that it got (all the oohing and aahhhing), getting into a National Newspaper and more, made me think to do ask a few questions. As most women have found when they have to style their daughter’s hair is that a lot of patience is required. It can take a long time to loosen cornrows properly and if the mother is able to, to weave new cornrows. What kind of husband do you have?
- Does he know the difference between natural hair and relaxed hair?
- Does he know where to buy the basics like combs and tools?
- Is he at a more advanced level and can use more complicated hair tools like curlformers?
For me that can be real quality time that parents spend with their children. Imagine having a father do that. I think it will be awesome for the little girl and a nice break for mummy from the tasks that are seen as hers. If you have a husband that can be roped into helping out with tasks like handling his kids’ hair, I think it should be very much encouraged. Don’t you?